Love is the most powerful emotion on earth, yet many of us get it wrong in the beginning. Then, it takes years of trial and error to finally get it right.
I didn't get a lot of good advice about love when I was growing up. Honestly, I really didn't get any advice, good or bad. No one talked to me about true love. The people around me couldn't define what true love is. Most of my family on both sides were female. So, as a child, I saw relationships modeled through women. Most conversations I overheard were about getting a man, but no one talked about what happens afterwards. I didn't know it at the time, but what I mostly witnessed was a combination of lust and temporary happiness from simply being in a relationship. In retrospect, we had no idea what it really meant to love or be loved. Generations before mine showed couples who stayed together for reasons other than love. They stayed in the relationship for the kids or for a means of survival. They endured at the cost of love. And then, there was my generation. We just didn't fake the funk; we gave up because it was just too hard to either love someone who didn't have the capacity to be loved or we couldn't recognize love if it hit us right in the face. I really didn't see anything else. So, it left me to figure it out all on my own. Before I went off to college, I could only recall a couple or two who seemed to truly love each other. They were always on the same accord and seemed genuinely happy together. I don't believe I've ever seen one without the other. Until this day, they still dress alike on Sundays!
David and Annette, I'd like to honor you this Love month, February 2020, for displaying 40 old school years of what I needed to see from afar. No matter which house our extended family decided to meet up, you brought a free spirit of happiness and laughter that contagiously flowed on Sundays. Even though my mother never told me this before she gained her wings, I know for sure that those Karaoke Sundays were some good old times for her. She enjoyed every bit of it. Thank you.
I am grateful for deliverance out of early relationships that didn't feel right and into one that felt like love. After years of learning and growing, I've inevitably produced the capacity to love my husband like he deserves. I am still a work in progress, but I get it now. Watch My Feet family, no one told me about love, but it doesn't mean I can't tell you. My hope is that you can use my path to shortcut into the love you deserve. So, here are 7 things I wish someone would have told me about love. 1. Taking your health seriously is the first step to self love.
2. Stop looking for love. True love finds you if you love yourself first. 3. Self respect is a reflection of self love.
4. Stop lying to yourself. Love doesn't hurt in any form or fashion. 5. To know and love who you are is to understand God's love for you. 6. Your capacity to receive love is only as much as your capacity to love yourself.
7. True love is shown through the sacrifice.
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